My Philosophy

My coaching style reflects my deep commitment to your happiness and the absolute certainty that your life experience is influenced by your thoughts, feelings, and the language you use.  Life is lived from the inside out - how your think and feel causes your experience of life. Yes, stuff happens.  It happens outside of you. However it is inside your system that you have the experience. You think about events and people, you feel your feelings, you tell yourself stories about what is happening, and these stories lead to your actions and life experiences 

I see you as being a fine human being and that there is no need for you to make any changes unless you want a different experience of life.  The following are some of the challenges you may be facing:

• Are you beating yourself up? Let me help you put down the broom and assist you to be inspired into action. This is a learned behavior from childhood and there is no need for that particular motivational tool anymore.

• Do you talk negatively about yourself? Let me help you be comfortable being your own best friend. The greatest gift you can give yourself is to feel complete in yourself. It’s a whole new way of being when you are at peace with who you are.  At that point you do not need anyone’s approval.  You don’t need to forgive or be forgiven. You have clear boundaries.  You have clarity on what are the next steps in your life’s journey. You are free and you are able to allow everyone else their freedom to be themselves. It’s wonderful when someone chooses to walk in life beside you but you don’t need to cling to them.  You are complete in yourself and you don’t need anyone else to make you feel whole. They are free and you are free to enjoy each other’s company for as long as it suits you both.

• Do you behave as if your thoughts are not your responsibility and you allow them to bully you? Let me show you how to assume the Power Position and take over management of your thinking. I have you put the word ‘my’ in front of your thoughts, recognizing they are a possession and demonstrate how you can change them like your clothes. You are not your thoughts.  Now you are not a victim to your thinking anymore. This alone can provide you with so much peace.

• Are you having difficulty in defining or reaching some of your stated goals?  Are there well observed patterns in your behavior that sabotage your career or relationships?  I’m able to help you uncover the inner blocks that have resulted in the unwanted externally observed behavior. It can be so easy to get in the way of seeing your own issues and it’s incredibly helpful to have someone assist you in this exploration.

To create a different life experience you have to make changes in how you think, feel and act. In my coaching I am your support and while you are the expert on your life, I promise to provide many different ideas on what strategies you might like to try in your particular situation.  My expertise consists of my ability to recognize that your language is both a doorway to your system and a pathway to freedom. I help you identify the patterns of thinking that are blocking you from the experience you desire.